For the little boy to come into our lives...

Adoption is just right. I know that there is a time and a place for all things in life. If I would have learned that, truly learned that, I would have saved myself three years of heartache. However, had I done that I wouldn't have grown or learned as much as I have in these past three years. Ha! I said grown! Hopefully that's the case anyway. 


I have been feeling like for a really long time that there is a little boy waiting to come into our family. What I didn't realize until a few months ago is that he is already here, waiting to be found by us, his family. The feeling is getting so much stronger that we are to search for our little boy. 


When we started talking about adoption, before Donnie was deployed, I knew it was something we needed to do but was so uncomfortable with the idea. It wasn't the right time. Then we found out Donnie was getting deployed and had to stop, again, not the right time but I was relieved, not sad. I had it stuck in my head that the only way I would be happy with adding kids to our family was through us, biologically. I know that Heavenly Father prepares us for all things and that had I not gone through my life and trials I don't think I would be where I am now and ready to accept and fully open myself up to the idea of adoption. 


What a blessing it is that these little babies can find homes that are better suited for them. Whether it's that they went to the wrong family ( I don't think so because God doesn't make mistakes) or that they just need more family (I'm thinking this might be it) we won't know but I do know that at this time in our lives adoption is going to work.


I am so excited about the possibility of our little boy. I know he's out there somewhere and it's just a matter of finding him. The first little boy that I fell in love with just by looking at him is a no go. We were told that we can't adopt out of state until six months after we finish the classes with DHR. They don't seem very interested however, in getting us started. Then yesterday something really strange happened. I have no idea if it's going to work out but it's a lead and that's what this life is all about, following the Spirit and following leads. 


So a friend of mine, a dear friend of mine, was on Facebook yesterday and we were chatting and catching up and I told her we are going to adopt. She asked if we were going through the church and I said no. We really want to adopt a toddler. I want to have my own baby, which I know I will do someday, so we want a little bit older. Anyway, I told her we were going through the state and she asked how we felt about one that wasn't in the system and I said of course! We are open to all possibilities and she told me that a member of her family had a baby who is now 18 months old. We talked about it last night and we are definitely taking the lead. We were really excited about it. It's strange, I'm excited but calm. Those two things, I wasn't aware, could exist in the same place. 


Anyway, we are waiting to hear back from her about what the grandparents want to do. She said they definitely want to be involved and how awesome is that? We would have three sets of grandparents for our kids! Not many are that blessed! So we are just waiting and praying. It's all very exciting! I'm going to have a little boy! EEEPPPP!!!!! Whether it's this boy or another, we are really excited! I'm even trying to think of what to do to the room. I'm thinking gray (thanks Corrie) with frogs. I love frogs. And then we can change it later to whatever but little boys like frogs right? How fun and so exciting! It's so true when one door closes another one bigger and better opens. What joy comes from this life.

Run with the law. (or away from it, apparently)

On Tuesday my dear husband, who lost his drivers license, military ID, and the form used to get the National Guard tags renewed, went to get a new drivers license. He walks up to the desk and proceeds to go through the typical responses on losing a license and needing a new one. The response that follows (or something like it, edited a bit for dramatic effect, of course): "Sir, your license has been suspended and you need to contact the Cleburne County imbasils who screwed up royally and pay us thousands upon hundreds of thousands of dollars so we can hire people who actually have a brain" (Ok, granted, I'm being a little harder on the system than I should be, HA! right...)

He leaves and calls the court house and receives these delightful instructions from the lady on the phone: "Um, dumb head, you have a warrant out for your arrest and you have been fleeing from the law for over a year. Turn yourself in and the rest will be harmless." He then is able to talk to the wonderful, compasionate, patient, country boy judge this side has ever seen. "Son, (spits in spitune) (can't spell it but you get the idea), you were to appear in court in 2008 (spit) and upon failure to uh, do so, you were (spit) issued a warrant and your (spit) license (spit) was suspended (spit, spit, spit). You need to uh, come in with some papers that show us you had (spit) insurance on the days in question." Donnie's reply, "I WAS THERE TWO DAYS AFTER IT HAPPENED AND TURNED IN A COPY OF MY INSURANCE BECAUSE OF THE IDIOT PEOPLE YOU HAVE WORKING FOR YOU THIS IS HAPPENING!!!!!!"

Ok, so seriously, not really, the judge was wonderful and the ladies that worked there were so nice. We went in yesterday and waited to speak with the judge after being told there is a 272 dollar fine and then another 150  to get his license back. The judge null somethinginged the 272 and we are currently working on getting the other 150 taken away.

Because after all, if the failure to appear in court was sent to an address lived at four years prior, you can't very well expect one to know they have to appear in court. DUH!!!!! So here we are today, he has to call the court house back and get them to send over a letter head, signed by the judge letter, stating that they did in fact, send out a notice but sent it to the wrong address and then they will be able to reinstate his license at no cost. Our argument is that if the judge threw it out because they screwed up, then the license was NEVER suspended in the first place.

So for a day and a half I was knowingly aiding and abbedding (again, I have NO idea how to spell that, stupid spell checker thingy, what good is it if it doesn't know how to spell either?) a fugitive of the law. Who's going to be friends with me know?

Our process of adoption....

Adopting is something that we have always wanted to do and for one reason or another have been dragging our feet and coming up with every excuse under the sun as to why not to do it. Well, the thinking and praying and that nagging feeling you have to do something hasn't gone away. We have decided to pursue this path at this time. I guess this is where I will keep people updated. It will be much easier.

So far we are at the paper work stage. We are going to go through DHR or the state rather than the church. As much as we would love to have a new born, debt isn't the way to bring a child into this world, and that is the only way we could do it if we had to pay large amounts for it. It is so sad to me to think of all the kids out there that need homes and can't have them because people can't afford to get them.

We are opening up every door possible to add to our family. We have been emailing back and forth trying to find the right people to contact. I think we may have found the person. We aren't picky about gender or race but we want a healthy baby and will not take anyone that is older than Josey. We are excited about the possibility that this new avenue will bring and are grateful to those of you wanting to share in our journey.

I'm also finding it hilarious how difficult it has been for me to choose a blog background! There are just too many cute ones. Too funny!